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How I Overcame Opioid Addiction To Be The Mom My Kids Needed

Published by Daniel Brooks Moore (some content may be aggregated) on

Every little girl dreams of getting older and relishing in spa days and shopping sprees with their mom. I was no exception, but my storyline played out a little different. My father left my biological mother when I was two years old. He shipped me off to south Florida with my grandparents to spare me the heartache of the divorce and to shelter me from the reality of my biological mother’s drug addiction. A couple of years later, he met Sandie.

Sandie quickly fell in love with not only my father, but me as well. She adopted me and became not only my mom but my best friend. Never once did I doubt her love for me.

I was left with unanswered questions of my biological mother and why I wasn’t good enough for her, and it fueled my insecurities for as long as I can remember. I’d find myself isolating and changing shades like a chameleon, adapting to every new group of “friends” I’d encounter.

Life continued to unfold, and at 20 years old, I found myself a single mom to the most beautiful baby boy. I felt like my life’s purpose had been fulfilled. Things finally came around full circle. Never could I have fathomed unconditional love like the love I have for my child.

January 10, 2013 would prove to be the worst day of my life. Before venturing to church in the city, I entertained small talk in the kitchen with my mom, hassling her about quitting smoking and thanking her for being the best mom ever. I left for church. During the service I received a text that read, “Is everything okay? I saw the ambulance at your house.”

Every worst case scenario ran through my mind. I finally got my brother to answer the phone, and I vividly remember him crying, “Something is wrong with mom, she was on the ground and couldn’t talk to me. Dad is in the ambulance with her, you have to get here and get to the hospital.”

My worst nightmare became a reality–Mom had a massive heart attack. Without taking a second to process the information, I called up a local drug dealer to meet me at the hospital with my analgesic of choice. After all, how could I possibly be sober and emotionally available for my father, brother, and son?

M om passed away two days later, and life as I knew it was completely dismantled. I had been stripped of every molecule of oxygen in my body, and the only relief I could find: opiates. I didn’t spend an hour without some form of mood/mind altering substance in my body. I dove headfirst into running my parents’ restaurant. Without skipping a beat, I was working full time, raising my son alone, and assuming all the responsibilities my mom once held.

As the pain of her absence grew, so did my unrelenting addiction. Plagued by the stigmas of addiction, I thrived on denial and lived a double life. I maintained the picture perfect life on the outside, but emotionally, I was dead. Grief swept in like a tidal wave, and I was drowning. I remember waking up to indulge in my vices before I’d even kiss my son good morning. This spiraled out of control, until one day I was brought to my knees.

Handcuffed on the side of the road in the small rural town I grew up in. I spent three days and two nights confined to a place I didn’t belong. Upon getting released, I was faced with the reality that everyone knew my secret. Everyone knew I wasn’t handling things so well; I wasn’t handling anything at all. I was broken. I was numb.

The superwoman act was a lie. I hopped onto a plane, desperately seeking relief. To this day, the hardest moment in my recovery was kissing my son goodbye the morning I left. With no real timeline for when I’d see him again, this is a painful memory that continues to ignite the flame of perseverance when it comes to maintaining my sobriety. I entered treatment and, finally, was forced to face the absolutes of my mother’s death.

How could I possibly raise my son and stay sober without my mom here? I was crippled with fear and self-doubt, but one day that all changed. I didn’t have the “white light” experience–my spiritual awakening was one of the more educational variety. I blame that on my stubbornness. Through hard work and pain, I managed to incorporate real recovery into my life. I learned to breathe again.

About a year into my sobriety, I was blessed with a beautiful little girl. A whirlwind of emotions flooded me. How could I possibly raise a little girl without my mom here to help lead the way? I couldn’t have been more misled. I found myself walking into two years of sobriety, a single mother… again. But this time, I called the shots.

After spending two years in an unhealthy, abusive relationship, I got out. I pushed through every barrier and challenged every illusion of fear. It was as if my mom was carrying me, when I couldn’t carry myself. Every experience that led up to my recovery and the structure of my family played a part in shaping me into the woman I am today. I became a courageous, unstoppable force. I could pause before reacting. Impulsivity no longer controlled my actions.

Meditation and spirituality became my stress relievers. Helping another alcoholic by sharing hope, from my despairing experiences, became my relief. From the motherless, hopeless drug addict to the graceful woman of integrity I am today, there is no doubt that “everything happens exactly as it should.”

(Source: Scarrymommy.com)


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